Nobody’s perfect. This is especially true in relationships, and you know it.
As is always the case with romance, though, you must be careful. Compromising, meeting halfway, and accepting your lover, these are all important if you want a fulfilling relationship, but you can’t allow yourself to become a victim.
There are certain behaviors which you simply should not tolerate in a significant other, no matter how much you may find this person attractive, stimulating, and well, loveable.
If you do find yourself with someone displaying the following traits, you should at the very least say something. You shouldn’t be subject to. . .
1. Impossibly high standards
In all serious relationships, we’re going to, at some point, need our significant other to take some sort of action they may have been neglecting. Maybe they have an unhealthy habit that’s preventing the relationship from growing; whatever the case may be, the truth is, your lovers need to learn to accommodate your needs.
Passion fades. Attraction fades. Respect, if you’re in a healthy relationship, grows. It provides the foundation for romantic success. That’s why it is of the utmost importance that you find yourself with someone who shows you that necessary degree of respect. As a couple, you will fight. That’s just something that can’t be avoided.
Relationships are partnerships. And no partnership, no matter what the context, can thrive if one member fails to contribute towards the overall goal. As a couple, your goal is to share a life together. If, however, one half of the couple makes the money, and tends to the kids, and cooks, and cleans, and takes care of all of the myriad duties that go into making a relationship work, it’s not a true partnership.
4. Unrealistic expectations
Society, upbringing, and natural instincts have all led us to develop certain beliefs about the “ideal??? partner. They vary from person to person, of course, but we’re all familiar with the idea that a man should be confident and strong, or that a woman should be submissive and nurturing. These are just two examples of the many archetypes we’ve all created for ourselves and our partners.
Obviously, such expectations are ridiculous and limiting, but many of us fail to completely rid them from our minds.
In this instance, you’re with a partner who adores you so deeply that they’ve sacrificed their own identity in order to make you happy.
Sure, it can make for a fairly pleasant experience on your end – so long as it’s not overbearing, of course – but it doesn’t allow a relationship to flourish in the long run. For two people to enjoy an enduring and healthy romance, they must be able to merge their personalities, desires, and ambitions.