If you are suffering from a broken heart, don’t worry as we will teach you how to heal from a broken heart right here.
The love they say is a beautiful feeling. And always evolve around two hearts but the pain you feel when things get messed up and force you to go your separate ways is what never seems to heal.
One out of two couples who separate ends up committing suicide or going through an emotional breakdown and might never be able to recover from it.
There are no two ways about it, healing a broken heart takes time but there are things you can do to support yourself during the healing process and also protect your emotional wellbeing.
It is always important to look after your own needs after a heartbreak even if you don’t want to.
1. GIVE YOURSELF SOME TIME TO GRIEVE:
Grief is not the same for everyone but the best thing you can possibly give yourself is the permission to feel all of your sadness, anger, loneliness, and guilt that has piled inside your heart. Often times I advise anyone with heartbreak to open up and cry if they feel like it.
A friend of mine said that he doesn’t like crying because it makes him feel like a weakling and I completely relate to how he feels but when you are going through situations like this, you will have to open up, let the tears flow and carry out your regrets and the things that you wished that you had known earlier.
Sometimes by doing that, you unconsciously give those around you some sort of strength to feel their own grief too and won’t make you feel like you are alone in it anymore”. You might even find out that a friend had also gone through similar situations and has some tips on how he or she overcame the pain.
Grieving is not just an emotional experience, it also depletes you physically and since physical and emotional pain travels along the same pathways in the brain, deep breathing, watching movies, taking up swimming lessons or dancing lessons, meditation and exercise can be a great way to preserve your energy and take your mind of the pain but don’t beat yourself up over it, either.
Simply making an effort to eat and stay hydrated can help you go a long way. Take it slow, one day at a time.
2. GO OUTSIDE YOUR ROOM:
Research has it that spending just 2 hours a week outdoors can improve your mental and physical health. Though it might not be that fun probably because some things you will see might end up reminding you of your previous experience with your ex but even regular walks around your vicinity can be very helpful to your healing process.
You can as well find a quiet place outside your room, read some self-helping books, and listen to motivational speakers who have had to go through a heartbreak ordeal and come out successfully.
Don’t try to suppress the pain. Don’t waste energy on feeling ashamed or guilty instead invest that energy into making efforts to feel better and promote the healing process. It’s natural to compare your situation to that of others but heartbreak and its healing process aren’t a competition.
It has no timetable or expiry date so avoid statements like “I should have moved on by now” and give yourself all the time that you need to fully heal. Remember that it’s okay not to be okay.
3. TRY NOT TO USE ALCOHOL AND OTHER DRUGS TO EASE YOUR PAIN:
While alcohol might make you feel better at first, the after-effect might leave you feeling worse. Try to get regular sleep and have in mind that it can be really upsetting if you find out that your ex has a new relationship so try to avoid thinking about them being with someone else.
Stay away from drugs that are going to make you crazy and make you want to post your ex and lash out at them because even though they might deserve it, this won’t make you feel any better and will only leave you feeling embarrassed the next morning when you wake up.
If you are struggling with anger or jealousy when getting over a difficult breakup, then it’s important to remember to stay safe. In fact, stay away from drinking pubs or nightclubs so you don’t end up doing something stupid.
Don’t feel shy to ask for help. When I say “Help” I don’t mean you broadcasting your problems but I mean talking to an adult who has the experience and you trust to give you a piece of good advice.
4. DON’T JUMP QUICKLY INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP:
You may feel a sense of urgency about finding a new partner or might feel too scared to go into another relationship but either way, give yourself some time. If you don’t take time to reflect on your previous relationship, you might end up repeating the same patterns or making the same mistakes in a new one.
It can be hard to break free from old ways of thinking and behaving even if it’s not helpful. But recognition is the first step to making changes after a healing process. Forgiving your ex may take time and may not come up easily, especially if you were hurt or betrayed.
It’s important to note that forgiving someone does not mean that you condone their hurtful behavior and actions. In fact, the act of forgiveness is not so much about the other person.
To mend a broken heart and move on, there is someone else you need to be ready to forgive and that person is yourself
5. DON’T GET STUCK IN THE PAST:
We all have the tendency to look back on our lives or certain relationships. Even if your relationship ended on a sour note, chances are, it was not all bad. No relationship is all bad but none are perfect either.
It is normal to look back at what was good about it and it would even surprise you to find out that you miss certain things about your ex and the love you both shared but at the same time you may feel overwhelmed by the empty space that’s left when the relationship ended.
Riding out these shifts in emotions is part of the healing process.
When a happy memory comes up, allow yourself to be grateful for it then MOVE ON!
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